I have come to the realization that children are basically tiny bullies when their brains end up in a state of dysregulation. These are a few of the highlights from the past week shouted at me:
"I hate you."
"You are the worst mom in the world."
"You look like a rotten pig."
"You aren't even good at driving or doing your work."
"I'm never liking you for the rest of the day."
I am trying to stay calm in these situations and I try to put these phrases into my child translator section of my brain.
I hate you and worst mom translates to "I am upset with you."
The name calling/ being mean translates to "I'm angry/sad so I want you to feel the same way."
Then my brain starts is to have not so nice thought bubbles popping up and I have to translate those thoughts into kid friendly guidance.
It can be so so so hard to not take these comments personally and I have been working really hard to remember to use my translator and get myself collected to respond versus react....
Sometimes I don't respond how I wish I would have and I try to give myself grace knowing I am doing the best I can and then it makes me think that my child is probably doing the best they can also. Who else can relate? What good quotes do you have from the past week?